||[Jul. 7th, 2005|12:22 am]
Nick a.k.a. "Romeo"
Copied from a reply to a friend's LJ on the subject of marriage:|
Thought I'd say hello and drop my forty-nine cents-worth of thought.
I understand that the effort and work that go into a successful marriage are entirely incalculable. The combination and series of small events, actions, and words all depend upon the actual couple themselves. From a guy's perspective, I can say that a lot of the success depends upon how well we can gauge what truly makes women happy and secure. A short anecdote:
One of my senior business partners, Wes, has found that his wife's comfort and security are not based on how much he compliments her on what she wears, how she looks, or anything of a verbal nature. Those effects mean little to her; instead she knows he really cares when he touches her. A caress, a back massage, physical contact are what really show her that he truly cares.
As for myself, I think that a woman who bolstered my security with things like "you're the most intelligent man I know" and things of that nature would really make me reel for her. Recognition for what I do is so important for me, because I really haven't had a whole lot of that in my life, at least not a lot that I could take seriously. Oh, and I love back massages and back scratches. (shiver with delight)
It's so critical that both individuals back eachother up and build eachother up in everything that they do. Otherwise, it looks/feels to me like it's not a true marriage. Wow, thanks for reading this far :D.